03 Apr 7 days, 7 new things learned
Self-experience: is it possible to learn something new every day?
Learning 1: How often do I fall into one of these traps?
I learned this stuff while writing my business psychology paper.
The topic is stress, and the leading questions of the paper are:
- Whether self-leadership can reduce leaders’ stress
- Whether certain competencies can have an impact on self-leadership
- How self-leadership can be integrated into leaders’ stressful lives
The six columns of self-leadership are:
Self-concept means comparing the external image and the self-image in terms of strengths, weaknesses, and idiosyncrasies. This implies both self-perception and self-reflection and obtaining feedback from outside and including it in the reflection (Drath, 2019, p. 9).
Insights on self-concept from author and psychologist Steve Ayan:
- We know ourselves as little as we know a stranger. Emily Pronin calls this the introspection illusion. The reason, she says, is that we have an image of ourselves and don’t want to acknowledge negative qualities. We see avoidable faults in the other person, whereas we do not perceive them in ourselves because we have a positive image of ourselves (Ayan, 2018).
- How do I know who I am before you tell me how I appear? (Ayan, 2018). Perceptions by self and by others are often not congruent; only through feedback from others can we know our impact.
- The Dunning-Kruger effect: The more incompetent someone is, the less they suspect it (Ayan, 2018).
- The desire for coherence: When people report back to us what we ourselves already believe, the world seems all right to us (Ayan, 2018).
- Therefore, those who think they know themselves well know themselves poorly precisely because of this (Ayan, 2018). Insecure people make an effort to act according to their values, whereas self-confident people do not make an effort to try it.
- People with a rigid self-concept do not tolerate failure well. They do not progress (Ayan, 2018), whereas people who assume that they can always learn something want to compensate for deficits and develop accordingly.
My favorite learning was the Dunning-Kruger effect and the other insights on self-concept from Steve Ayan. Since if I have learned them, after every discussion, I think about whether I have fallen into one of the traps above.
Learning 2: The Dunning-Kruger effect in detail
„In the original Dunning-Kruger studies, people who scored the lowest on tests of logical reasoning, grammar, and sense of humor had the most inflated opinions of their skills. On average, they believed they did better than 62 percent of their peers, but in reality, outperformed only 12 percent of them. The less intelligent we are in a particular domain, the more we seem to overestimate our actual intelligence in that domain“ (Grant, p. 38-39).
Learning 3: Is there nothing left to take away?
„A designer knows he has achieved perfection not when there is nothing left to add, but when there is nothing left to take away“ (Heath, 2007, p. 28).
Learning 4: Level of design products!
The four levels of affordances that a design product should work on from Rex Hartson:
- Cognitive affordance: design a feature that helps the user, like a label on the button
- Physical affordance: design a feature that allows ease of use of the user interface
- Sensory affordance: design a feature that will enable the user to sense it as quickly as possible – for example, with contrast
- Functional affordance: design a feature that helps the user to reach the goal
Learning 5: Sometimes I am a monkey :-O
There was a story I read again. I knew the story, but I had forgotten it, and after rereading the story, I thought about situations in which I am a monkey. „As part of an experiment, a researcher puts five monkeys into a large enclosure where dangling above a ladder; there is a bunch of bananas. The monkeys immediately spot the bananas, and one climbs toward them. As he does, the researcher sprays him with a stream of cold water, then sprays each of the other monkeys. The monkey on the ladder scrambles off. All five sit for a time on the floor, wet, cold, and bewildered. Soon, though, the temptation of the bananas is too great, and another monkey begins to climb the ladder. Again, the ambitious monkey is sprayed with cold water, and so are all the other monkeys. When a third monkey tries to climb the ladder, the other monkeys, wanting to avoid the cold spray, pull him off the ladder and beat him. Now one monkey is removed, and a new monkey is introduced to the cage. Spotting the bananas, he naively begins to climb the ladder. The other monkeys pull him off and beat him. Here’s where it gets interesting. The researcher removes a second one of the original monkeys from the cage and replaces him with a new monkey. Again, the new monkey begins to climb the ladder, and again the other monkeys pull him off and beat him—including the monkey who had never been sprayed. By the end of the experiment, none of the original monkeys are left, and yet, even though they never experienced the cold, wet spray, they all learned never to try for the bananas“ (Stepper, 2020, Position 51).
Learning 6: Oh no: most of the time I tell, but I should Show, not Tell
„Instead of naming emotions, use actions, thoughts, visceral reactions, and body language to show what your characters are feeling“ (Gerth, p. 16).
Learning 7: Inspiration from people who think similarly – bullshit – or not?
Until recently, I was sure that I got inspiration or new ways of thinking, mainly from people who are the opposite of me. My thinking was, the more similar a person is to me, the less something completely new can arise from it. Well, I never believed in something like soul mates, but I also didn’t find it desirable to look only for friends who were very similar to me, on the contrary.
A little over a year ago, I met a person who seems incredibly similar to me. There are always moments when I have to smile inside when we exchange ideas because I realize how similar I think or would act in similar situations. Even more impressive for me is that I have never seen the person face-to-face. I only know her online meetings and only via English communication and therefore think even more about how crazy this is because we also rarely communicate. Whether it is the same for her, I do not know. I enjoy every moment that I have with her because it is so incredibly easy. I never have the feeling of doing something wrong, never have to pretend, can just be me. The feeling is a bit like taking a break. And I would never have thought it. That also inspires me again and again. Every time I have a video call with her, I have a new idea afterward.
Ayan, S., (2018). Zehn Dinge, die Sie über sich wissen sollten. Gehirn&Geist. 4/2018. Abgerufen von
Drath, K., (2019) Die Kunst der Selbstführung. Haufe TaschenGuide. German Edition. Haufe. 2. Auflage 2019. Kindle-Version.
Grant, A., (o.D.). Think Again (S.38-39). Ebury Publishing. Kindle-Version.
Gerth, S., (o. D.). Show, Don’t Tell: How to write vivid descriptions, handle backstory, and describe your characters‘ emotions (Writers‘ Guide Series Book 3) (S.16-17). Ylva Publishing. Kindle-Version.
Stepper, J., (o.D.). Working Out Loud: A 12-Week Method to Build New Connections, a Better Career, and a More Fulfilling Life. Publisher’s Group West. Kindle-Version.
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